Sunday, December 28, 2003

An open letter to Sharon Jeep, Issues Jeep, Sharon vs. Jeep, David, Cause No. 03FC-10670(M), Division No. 65

Sunday, December 28, 2003

An open letter to Sharon Jeep
The Marital Household of Sharon and David Jeep
16325 Centerpointe Drive
Grover, MO  63040-1602

Re:   Issues Jeep, Sharon vs. Jeep, David
         Cause No. 03FC-10670(M)
         Division No. 65

Dear Sharon,
I do not know how much you have spent on your attorney.  I have spent way too much.
You and I both know that the issue in the bathroom on the morning of 11/03/03 was non-violent.  I came in as you were blow drying your hair early in the morning to ask you, my spouse, for a personal favor.  I asked maybe 2 or three times making the case that this is what one spouse does for the other spouse.  I never demanded anything.  You were sitting near the unlocked door.  I was sitting on the floor across the room, a large bathroom, NOT touching you in ANY WAY.  I never forced myself on you.  And all you would say after being asked for a favor was, "I will give you my answer this evening."  Unbeknownst to me you had already decided in favor of the ex parte’ order of protection.  And then naively and so not to upset you any further, I left, to be honest close to tears.  The whole interaction if it took 5 minutes, I would have been surprised.
As we all know that night I got my answer in the form of a policeman evicting from my home and FAMILY during Monday Night Football.  Since then as we all know I have been OUT of the MARITAIL HOME. 
I have not had free access to my son, I have been kept from my home, my possessions.  And why?  Because the COMMISSIONER, not even a judge, saw a pattern.  He saw a pattern, what was this pattern?  I asked you for a favor on 11/03/03.  I asked you and was granted a similar favor on 10/06/03.  And prior to that I can not remember the last time I asked you for a favor.  Now if the Judge has some inside info, the rest of us are not privy to, please I beg of him, let us know.
As regards what you have done to me.  I have been KEPT from my son.  I was not able to see him on Thanksgiving nor on his Birthday 12/22/03 nor on Christmas.  I consider those acts to be a violent attack on a father’s relationship with his son.  It has not only been violent to me but also to Patrick and it has also impacted his relationship with the Jeep family as whole, in that the holidays are a major source of bonding for a family.
Now why has this been the put in to force.  Have I ever hit you, NO.  Have I ever even threatened to hit you, NO.  Have I ever so much as raised a hand to hit you, NO.  Have I pulled on your arm to get your attention when you were walking away, in 15 years of marriage, on occasion, YES I have done that.  Do I do it every time we argue, NO.  Do I handle you to control or intimidate you, NO.  We are or have been until now, adults and we do realize that we have to settle our issues between us and we can not run away.  Have I ever tried to control your day to day life, NO.  Have I ever tried to control your money, NO.    As regard involvement with your money,  the only issue I can remember was that I refused to balance your check book.  Has violence ever been a day to day factor in our household, NO.  Have I ever forced you to have sex, NO.  Do I demand sex, NO…. NEVER.  Have I kept you in some involuntary servitude, supporting me, NO.  Point in fact until October you had never actually made a house payment.  In the nearly 15 years we have been together, I have made every rent or house payment.  I have paid virtually all the utilities bills and household expenses short of some Day Care and Food Expenses. 
Now I had been unemployed for 20 months prior to your action.  I had during my time off paid virtually all the bills from an inheritance from my family.  During my time off, I took virtually complete care of Patrick, feeding him, dressing him, seeing to his day to day needs.  As regards the household, I made the bed every morning, I always picked up after myself.  I did the all the laundry.  I did all the dishes.  I took care of cooking and preparing food for Patrick and myself.  Furthermore as regards the issue of my being unemployed we had with the direct involvement of a therapist made an agreement that I would be allowed my personal time.  Now the agreement had expired in September, but in my defense I thought I had a job lined up in August, although it fell through.  I  had worked at Schnucks during the grocery strike in October and if I had not had the upset of being forced from the house, been game fully employed very soon again.  And for the record, I am now and have been employed in my chosen field as a professional and making a decent wage since mid November.
Now if it is your intention to some how create some new allegations of violence, there is nothing there, but I will address anything you want to assert.  But first let’s just go back to your original allegations listed in your original request for an Order of Protection.  On November 3, 2003 if there was a real threat of violence, you were free to voice them and put them forward.  You made no mention of anything from that morning.  The only things you put forward, I thought were telling of the lack of violence in our household.  Kristen’s allegation was 1-2 years old and your allegation did not even have any direct relationship to our household in that you were not even witness to it, it happened 150 miles away and it had happened a month prior.  Therefore your assertion that you had an immediate FEAR of violence was just totally unfounded.
The towel bar issue Kristen referenced was indicative of the issue of violence in our household.  The breaking of the towel bar was the result of two people in a small space and the inadvertent movement against a very fragile element, the center of a towel bar.  Kristen loves to bring it up and make an issue of it at any and every opportunity.  And with societies current  acute sensitivity to abuse the mere assertion of wrong doing takes on credibility.   Even though there is absolutely nothing to it either then or NOW.  And although as it was her assertion and should have been central to our hearing because it was, it was never addressed at our hearing and the time frame of it was never brought to light.  We both know that the incident happened over a year and maybe as long as 2 years ago.  To be honest, I cannot remember when it actually happened.  I will although confirm that it did happen as I described, NO VIOLENCE involved.  The one thing I am sure of is that when Kristen filed her Ex Parte’ request for an order of protection, she had absolutely no fear from me of being thrown against a towel bar or any wall.  I go out of my way to avoid any and all close proximity interaction with her.  I have heard too many times about the towel bar incident.
I know you Sharon, 90% of the emotion you were showing in the courtroom was an abiding fear of being ON THE SPOT in a public place.  As regards to your assertitions on your Ex Parte’ request for an order of protection that “I had shown my bad temper in a courtroom situation.”  I defy you now or at anytime to find anyone who can relate any instance of me loosing my temper violently.  I admit to being a sometimes smart ass and I AM NEVER VIOLENT.  Your allegation is a complete fabrication from events you were not any part of nor witness to.  You were shopping.  This whole issue for you arose, largely, from yours and Kristen’s clandestine discovery of a letter I wrote to:

Commission on Retirement, Removal and Discipline of Judges,
2190 S. Mason Road, Suite 201,
St. Louis, MO 63131
Phone 314-966-1007.  

As you know I took issue with my treatment during the 10/6/03 court date in Camden County up before what I believe to be the appropriate authority the Commission on Retirement, Removal and Discipline of Judges.  I wrote my first letter for this issue on 10/08/03, two days after the occurrence and nearly a month before you made issue of it in your ex parte’ protection order.  And I will let my public statements and my communications with them stand on their own.  I acted in a civilized manor and I think I was treated in an unreasonable manor.  Did I get out of control and hit some one, NO.  Did I get out of control and take a swing at someone, NO.  Did I get out of control and verbally abuse someone NO Did I get out of control calling someone names or using abusive language, NO.  Did I disrespect the Judge in open court, NO.  Point in fact my main issue is that in open court I was swept under the carpet and not even given the barest minimum of a right to state my case.
Now where do we go from here?  What I want is to be back as a daily force in my son’s life, back in MY home.  You want a divorce, you go get yourself a divorce.  You want to separate, you move out, you desert your home and your son.  I will take care of my son and our home.  A divorce would hurt me and your son more than you can imagine.  I love you Sharon I have always loved you.  Given the opportunity I would always try to love and support you emotionally. 
I have to admit that I have not always lusted for you.  For the last nine years lust in our marriage has taken second seat to Patrick and Kristen.  Patrick in that he sleeps in our bed every night.  Kristen has been the main issue in that her irresponsible lifestyle, partying virtually every night till 1, 2, 3, 4 in the morning, her flunking out and/or dropping courses to avoid flunking out in college 4 semesters in row and her continued indebtedness and lack of financial responsibility of any kind.  I find her way of life unacceptable and this has been the main issue between us.   She is going down the wrong road and I feel responsible as a STEPFATHER if that be enough.  And I think most reasonable parental authorities would agree with me.  She needs to be given limits, credible limits.  I have several times asserted these limits, in written and mutually agreed on forms but without your day to day support, they were as always disregarded. 
Her recent statement upon moving back into the family home after being out for 5 months, I thought was very telling.  When I queried her as to what if any financial assistances she had contributed to the household where she had resided she replied, “I paid for all of my own hair care products.”  I then immediately followed with questions as to the rent, the light bill, the day to day expenses, and she related, she had not contributed.  She is 20 years old and she needs to be aware that the cost of a household goes beyond HAIR CARE PRODUCTS. 
Now you say I am not her father, I am just her stepfather.  I assert that she is at a minimum a dependent on my tax return and I am the only REAL parent willing to stand up to her and yes get in her face as regards her lifestyle.  I am the only one giving her credible consistent direction.  As I have done for 15 of her 20 years.  You blow up on the intermittent occasion and never follow up.  And your assertion here and now in a divorce action proves my point, you would rather divorce me and destroy your son’s nuclear family instead of STANDING UP TO your daughter.  And if you truly wish to assert our relationship would be here regardless of Kristen, YOU KNOW THAT IS A LIE.  I know destroying your son’s family gives you some kind of distorted relief from the unfounded guilty burden of having done it to your daughter.  Now or in the very near future you will have done it to both your children.  But I do not think it is the fair to me nor to your SON.


Reply to:

David G. Jeep

David G. Jeep

cc: Patrick B. Jeep, the Marital Household of Sharon and David Jeep
      Joan M. Gilmer, Circuit Clerk, the Circuit Court of the County of St. Louis
      James Robinson, 240 Long Road, Fax(636) 530-6805
      Tim Schlesinger, Paule Camazine & Blumenthal

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